Should we care about our looks?

 

People seem to think that caring about looks is vain, shallow and shows that you are immature and unintelligent. Yet, the same people who judge those who wear high heels and neat clothes to school, or have plastic surgery done, seem to be the same people who complain about weight or having too big of a nose. Because they are caring about the “right” kind of looks. Because weight is linked to health and because they are “so brave” for having that slightly big nose. Now, I am not writing this to convince you to go under the knife or spend an hour on your making each day. I wish no one had plastic surgery, but I am also glad that people can make that choice and do not think that anyone should be judged for doing so. We all do things that others do not understand the reasons for. Sometimes we do not even know ourselves. Why do I put salsa on everything? I don`t know. Why do I finger pistol my reflection? No idea. Why do I use Jean d`Arces `monologue as my prayer? I have absolutely no clue. However, I am assuming that when people put their life in risk for a smaller nose or bigger boobs, they have a pretty deep reason.

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(Legally extracted from youtube via google. Video about plastic surgery here.)

Weirdly enough though, that had absolutely nothing to do with todays post. Maybe not “weirdly enough” since it is pretty standard me to talk myself away from a point. Running, running, running. Aaaand we are back. Okay, todays post. Should we care bout our looks? Also known as “why we should care about our appearance”? Like I said, It sounds shallow. However, the fact is, it is not. Yes, looks can be used for many things. Sex, money, power, manipulation and success. It can also be used for motivation, happiness, interpersonal relationships, work ethic and being serious about life.

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When you get up in the morning, take a shower and put on sweatpants, you kind of feel like “okay, I did it. I am up. No I can relax”. When you get up in the morning, take a shower, feel fresh, and then put on a pair of jeans and a respectable shirt or blazer you feel motivated. Ready to take on the world. You feel more confident and prepared to work hard. You will also send out vibes that say, “I am a real human being who is trying my best” instead of “I am just here because I have to be, do not talk to me”. In addition, if you go to a school, or even more importantly, if you have a job, it is about respect for the establishment and your co-workers. You are not there by force, and they are paying you money to be there, the least you can do is take care of your personal hygiene and wear something that Eric Cartman would not. Besides, people have a tendency to think that those who look like they work the hardest do. And while this might not always be true, it is still how the world works, so if you like promotions and good grades, you should probably just “roll with it”. To the last point, being serious about life. Heavy stuff, especially coming from someone who spends hours sorting lip-glosses and Dr. Seuss books by color, but still has not learned to read a map. Nevertheless, the point is simply that when you were something empowering, doing a good job feels like it matters more than when you start the day with a “I don`t give a fuck attitude”. And by work hard, I don`t just mean in an employment kind of way. If your mission for the day is to water the plants, it is still much more likely to get done if you feel like a “worker bee” or “queen bee”. Queen bee usually does it for me. If you are not convinced yet, just check out this coolioko info-grapho-thingy-thing-thang.

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(Made with the super cool Canva).

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Three of the day #2

Todays three of the day is actually meant for tomorrow. As we know, Tuesdays is that day of the week where the weekend feeling has passed and we feel far from half way into the week. Yet, we have to keep a positive attitude! We do not want worry-wrinkles and darkened circles under our eyes from stress and bore, now do we? Therefore, without further ado, here is this week Tuesday edition of three of the day.

 

Advice of the day:

This is going to sound insane, but I swear it is in a mad genius kind of way. As I mentioned earlier, Tuesdays are kind of a bore because there is really no kind of positive spin we can put on it. Except, this one. If Tuesdays are beyond saving anyways, there is really only one thing to do. We move the most boring stuff to this day, so that the days that are actually within reach of saving, can be saved. That feeling in your stomach, those rolling eyes and the voice in your head that says that it is the stupidest thing you have heard, I have those to. My aching back and sleepy eyes are all like “Zoë, are you insane?” Maybe I am. Maybe I am not. Either way, I know that we all know from experience how amazing you feel after finishing something you have been dreading, and how lovely it is to be able to relax, knowing that it is all thanks to yourself. For example, yesterday I finished my work with psychology 1, and know have all the answers and notes for the course to review before my exam. And after having worked on that for hundreds of hours, finishing it was the best feeling in the world! That is why I am going to do my painfully boring homework and assignments tomorrow, so that the rest of the week can fit in plenty of me time. And trust me, slightly narcissistic people as my self need A LOT of me time.  And I advise you to do the same (duh, advice of the day), and almost guarantee that the rest of your week will be a lot easier if you do.

 

Motivation of the day:

 

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Fashion tip of the day:
Focus on accessories.
If you are like me, chances are that you will be tired tomorrow. Therefore, my advice to you is to not wear the tightest jeans and the most complicated layered tops. Instead, wear a minimalistic outfit, perhaps completely white to emphasize the minimalistic image while still looking stylish as never before. Instead of wearing a complicated outfit, focus on accessories. Long or hopped earrings pair excellent with a high ponytail, and add a statement necklace to easily look dressed up. Never overlook the power of ring sets, consisting of several slim, simple rings, and a focus-grabbing bracelet. It might be to snowy or slippery to wear shoes over boots, so prioritize purses. Choose a big, bold one or a small, complimenting one. Either way, own it! So there is my simple, yet hopefully useful, tip of the day. Basic outfit, bitching accessories.

 

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(Collage made using picmonkey.com. Pictures all legally extracted via google. Lik to necklace https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Fashion_Jewelry_Necklace.jpg. Link to ring https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jGzYSoh7fK4 . Link to the purse https://picasaweb.google.com/lh/photo/46uiBiMe30W4le8swW-mrQ)

Have a super week!

And please return for more advice and awkward stories!

 

Why I am a vegetarian

When I was born, one of our three cats would always sleep next to me to make sure I was safe. A few years later, I moved, to be closer to family, and met the dog Leon who was born the same year as me. His eyes always looked filled with love and compassion, and together we discovered a love for the forest. Out in nature you do not use words or devices to communicate, only looks and vibes. And any being is capable of that. Mankind, canines, felines, you name it. Did you know that a sheep never forgets a face? That an elephant can experience deep depression? That some apes can die from a heartbreak?

We have all seen Babe or Charlotte’s web, and it is a roller coaster, right? We just cannot have anything bad happen do that adorable little pig, and when everything works out great, we are so happy! Yet, in real life, it doesn’t seem to bother people to much that pigs are forced to get pregnant again and again, until their body cannot take it and they die of a heart attack from the strain. Before that, they have close to permanent open wounds on their bodies as a result from laying all the time in a small, enclosed space. Let us play a game, a game called who suffers the most. The baby pig who is ripped away from his or hers mother to soon to be fattened up and slaughtered as if they mean nothing. Or the mother who keeps being forced to get these babies, but never gets to keep them and doesn’t know where they are or why their gone. Who has it worse?

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Expectations vs reality.

(Both legally extracted via google. First is on youtube as True Movie Hits (CH.44) – Charlotte`s Web by TrueVisionsOfficial and the second on wikipedia; https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gestation_crate)

Chances are that you are a decent human being who does not intend  play this game at all. Because it is not a game. It is real life. And there are no winners. I guess the reasons why I had to discuss this, is because I myself have been having some struggles lately. A bad feeling, accompanied by some frightening nightmares about, yes, the food industry. Because I am not a vegan, I am not really even a vegetarian. I eat dairy, eggs and fish. And I feel bad about it. So bad that this text is apparently coming to a conclusion that I did not even know it would until I started writing this very paragraph.

What I wanted to say is that I am guessing many of you have felt the love and wisdom from cats, dogs or even tortoises. So why would we think that pigs, cows and chickens are any less? Because they are delicious? Josh Hutcherson is incredibly hot, but that does not mean that he is not intelligent as well. Many things awaken the primal in us, but we live in 2016, which means that we should let reason and compassion win. We are not cavemen, we are enlightened, modern and change wanting people with all that comes with it. So I wanted to say that even if you do not feel like making a big decision, just do baby steps, or honestly, just being aware of things and thinking about them usually subconsciously helps us make better decisions.  I guess there are just so many aspects and benefits to this that I will have to write about it some other time. But as I earlier stated, the direction kind of took a change in my head as I was writing and thinking about all the animal cruelty and how bad I feel when I eat these products. So with that in mind, I am going to make my 2016 mission a tomorrow mission and just go cold turkey on the animal products. And after seeing this video, I am even more sure about my decision, because this is by far the most heartbreaking thing I have ever seen.

(Legally extracted from youtube.)

Like I said, I do not think that I am better than anyone who eats meat, because I am not. I just hope that we can all work together to create a better world for all. And I believe that change begins with awerness.

 

Colors-schmolers. Quiz?

I have like the biggest nerd thing for color schemes for some reason, so I am definitely going to write about it in the near future, but for the time being, I just want to test your knowledge. Phones down, pens up!

Fashion is not always colorful, but it is always fun!

(Legally extracted from Youtube via Google. Extracted 02.05.2016. Published 02.14.2015. It is not possible to link here without getting the video placed in my post, but it is called “Fall/Winter collection, Fashion Design Illustration, 2015” and is by “Wendy liow” who is an amazing artist!)

What are your thoughts on seasonal colors? And more importantly, this seasons colors.  Also, as the wannabe people pleaser I am, I have to ask, do you like these type of quizzes?

 

Feminism? The new, well, everything?

Lately the media, and especially our beloved fashion magazines, have focused a lot on feminism, and the voices of feminism. One could wonder why. What I mean is, this is 2016 and women rights has been an important issue for more than a hundred years. So what was so special about 2015, and by the looks of it, 2016 as well? Perhaps it is just that the younger generations are seeing causes that hit closer to home. When Jennifer Lawrence, the embodiment of Katniss Everdeen- the girl on fire, does not get payed as well as her male co-stars there is no way the younger generations of the West are going to let that slide. If J-Law does not get the big bucks, then who does? When we in addition to this have Emma Watson telling us in her speech for her new position with the United Nations to focus on women rights, we are going to do it. That is just how it works. When Hermione says jump, we jump! And of course it does not hurt that what she is saying in particular is not only inspiring and intelligent, but also great put. Such as this quote on why men should not shy away from using the word feminist about them self ““Men think it’s a women’s word. But what it means is that you believe in equality, and if you stand for equality, then you’re a feminist. Sorry to tell you. You’re a feminist. You’re a feminist. That’s it.”. Well, we can not argue with that, and we should not either. 

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Amazing Emma Watson and the symbol for her incredible campaign “HeForShe” which is making men more involved in equality and helps them identify as feminists.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/HeForShe https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emma_Watson (Both images extracted from Wikipedia February 4, 2016,Image 1 published 03.02.2016, Image 2 published January 30 2016)

Other than this, we might even be on the verge of getting a female president now. One small step for Hillary Clinton, one big step for us as a collective society, were other power hungry, hopefully future presidents such as myself are a part. But come on, we have been surrounded by girl-power for ages. Meryl Streep, Beyoncé, Amy Pohler and Lena Dunham. So what is so special about now? Has this just increased gradually or is there just something in the air? Either way, I am loving it! As we all know, discrimination and injustice cannot be fought in The White House or on CNN. It can start with politics, role models and people with power, but true change can only happen with the power of the people. Having a black president has not stopped police violence against black people. Nor has legalizing gay marriage stopped people against discriminating and disrespecting the homosexuals. We can have as many policies as we want, and as many rights, but that still will not stop people from saying that women cannot be soldiers, mechanics or doctors. We know that they are wrong, and now society most reflect on to them that their attitudes are outdated and ridicules!

The generic symbol for feminism.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feminism (Legally extracted from Wikipedia 04.02. 2016, published January 21, 2016).

In this incredibly exciting time for all political aspects of life we are seeing a flood of essays, books and blogs from unapologetic women with a lot to say and an amazing way of putting it. One of my personal favorites is Lena Dunhames book “Not that kind of girl”. I bought this book while on a cruise and I immediately fell in love with it. Lena Dunham is the definition of direct, and an amazing mixture of crude, lovable and old-fashioned weird! Putting your life out there in such an honest and yet humorous way is so impressive and even more brave. In this book, which is a collection of essays about her life were all is tied together, she talks about subjects such as childhood, work and sex in a way that makes everything sound like it is no big deal, but also that it is the biggest deal in the world.  Wanting to be a successful woman myself and also hoping to publish at least one book in my lifetime, I have rarely felt so inspired as I did while reading this book, maybe except for when I read the book the second time. Dunham is what a woman should be like! Brave, honest, true to herself and ready to take on the world and not give one single fuck about people’s thoughts on what you wear, eat or do. As long as you are doing your work, and crushing it, there is absolutely no reason for anyone to claim that you cannot succeed or that you are not worth as much as someone else. Because you are! And if you have the biggest part in a movie, get the best contracts for your firm or get the highest score on your history test, then you do deserve the most money, the most credit and the highest grade. You deserve everything you work for!

I keep a tinsign of this on my bedroom wall to remind myself that they could do it, they did it and we can all do whatever we set our minds to.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feminist_movement (Legally extracted from wikipedia 04.02.2016, published February 3 2016).

Malala was fifteen years old when she was shot for what she believed in! How can anyone say that women are weak, when this not even yet woman literally risked her life for the opportunity to make a difference. If she was brave enough to take a stand against the Taliban when still in middle school, you are brave enough to demand respect and equal pay!

PS: Sorry for not being particularily funny, I just woke up so politically inspired, but I promise I will make it up to you in my next post.

Three of the day #1 Why Wednesday?!

For my first ever three of the day, I will sort of focus on the good, the bad and the wednesday, which is part of both. Please excuse all of my bad jokes, my three tips are better, I swear. Okay, I hope. Lets just find out.

Advice of the day:

Wednesdays are famously known for being the dullest and longest lasting day of the week. Therefore, we must beat it. We cannot outrun it, but we can fight it. Are you bored? Entertain yourself with small games. Count how many times your teacher or boss uses that same word or says the name of that annoying person. You lack motivation? Make a list of what you are there for, both short-term and long term. Maybe you can relax better at the party this weekend knowing that you have worked hard. Or maybe you need to pass school or get through this boring Wednesday in that boring job so that you can do what you really want. Do you want to be a lawyer? A fashion designer? Or perhaps a successful entrepreneur? Do you want a big house, or a massive wardrobe? No matter what your dreams are, know that each second you are a little bit closer. And do not forget, once you are through today, Friday is only a day away!

Today’s motivation:

Yes, I am one of those grandparent-like people who use long, weird stories to make points. With that said, let us go back to my weird story that I swear has a point. Okay, as many of you may know this has been a particularly cold, snowy and icy winter. For a freshly born Bambi such as the 5 foot 10 myself, this brings some challenges. So the other day I was rushing from campus to get to the library, yes the library. As you know, in snow-filled times as these, plowing leaves us with these impossibly thick walls of snow that you have to climb. To add to my suffering, nature thought it would be a great idea to make this edge incredibly icy, and therefore slippery. So I am rushing from campus, and try to climb this massive edge-wall combo. So what happens when a Bambi tries to climb the wall of horror? I will tell you what happened. I started falling. I literally slipped around on top of this edge for 45 seconds straight. Which I wish I could say was not classic me, but unfortunately it is. So where is the motivation? Well, after slipping around with a fear and almost insight of a certain death, I actually managed to catch balance. And if I can keep myself from falling on the wall of horror with my incredibly limited capacity, you can do ANYTHING! You want to pass algebra? You can do it! You want to became President? You can do it! And you most certainly can get through this day! Reach for the stars! But seriously, stay safe on the ice.

Today’s fashion tip:

Famous words from a beloved character “On Wednesdays we wear pink”. Yes, for the first ever tip on my blog; let us just keep it simple. I personally believe that the plastics do not just wear pink on Wednesdays because it is a “girly” color, but also because on the middle day of the week you need something uplifting. It is hard to find something as uplifting as the color pink. It is simple, beautiful and reminds us of a more joyful time. Now, I am not saying that you have to put on a summer dress, a big pink shirt or even a pink t-shirt. Even though I am not saying that you should not do that, because those things are great! Except, unless you live in a particularly warm area you should probably hold the summer dress. The point is that even if it is just your bracelet, your nails or your purse that has this color, the detail will not go unnoticed and is sure to lift your outfit, and probably your mood as well!

“On Wednesdays we were pink”. Rule to live by from the classic Tina Fey movie “Mean Girls”. Hanging tight for the third!

http://www.playbuzz.com/breesullivan10/what-kind-of-friend-are-you (Legally copied from Playbuzz, 03.02. 2016 via Google published may 18 2015)

That concludes the first ever three of the day edition. Let me know what you think!